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As long as you remain in a bad relationship, you will feel sickly, humiliated and unimportant. Heartbreaks are very painful and will always leave you wondering whether you will be able to love again. Many are the abusive relationships and many more are victims of the same; beautiful people like you who cry themselves to sleep every other night. If you love yourself that much, you should quickly opt out. The only way out is breaking up with your partner, a thing many people won’t bring themselves up to. It’s that hard.

As every minute drops, the bond between people in love will tend to grow stronger. Partners do many things together; they share great fantasies as well as great aspirations. All that matters is your partner’s dreams and aspirations. Everything in your life turns from “I” to “We” and nothing seems right without your partner’s input. Human beings are creatures of habits. When you get used to being with someone, the idea of breaking up is not that feasible, even when things don’t look up.

A good relationship should be about give and take. Two independent people should be present to call any relationship healthy. When this fails, an abusive relation is deemed to crop up. You don’t need a rocket science degree to know when yours is an abusive relationship. Take for instance; if yours is a give and take arrangement, then you are lined up for emotional abuse. Again, if all you think of is appeasing your partner, doing what they want including their hobbies and at times things you wouldn’t do, then you are deep into an abusive relationship. A healthy relationship thrives on the need to make both partners happy. When one partner manifests over dependence on the other, the relationship is bound to change from sweet to sour.

Well, you haven’t broken up with your partner yet. This means that you can still tip the balance to your favor. You should consider talking to your partner about the relationship. Find out whether or not they hold you with high esteem. If you are not content with their verbal response, you can harmlessly push for stickier proof. It is highly crucial that you clearly understand how your partner will react to a confrontation of this nature. A control freak will assume defense upon confrontation and might take far-reaching measures. A caring partner on the other hand will encourage you to open up and talk things over.

It was mentioned earlier on that over dependence leads to abusive relationships. This is the same with any type of relationship. If there are things you can do on your own, and these should be many, don’t wait for your partner. Many people are responsible for handing over their share of control. When one partner is doing everything in the relationship, then they are bound to assume control, which sadly leads to abuse.

If not handled well, money matters can cause a great deal of problems in a relationship. In an abusive relationship, your partner will most likely control how you spend your money. To avert such behavior, you should keep your ATMs and cards. Open a joint account with your partner if need be.
Cager Spencer is a freelance writer, personal growth explorer and a leader of several popular men’s relationship and inner wisdom retreats each year. He specializes in relationship advice for men, make her happy.